I am the first to admit that I am a person that gets stressed and overwhelmed quite easily. Over the course of the past year or two I have improved, but on the odd occasion, the stress does hit and I am like a mouse in a microwave. A few months ago the stress really did hit me and I didn’t know what to do. (Let’s just say that I have been in both worse and better situations).
My emotions were heightened and my fuse was short. I was basically skating on thin ice with my moods and emotions.
Anyway, at some point during this time in my life, my dad gave me a really great piece of advice which was this:
“You can’t control what people say and do to you, but you can control the way you react.”
Essentially, he meant that if someone or a situation was making me stressed, I had the choice of how I was going to react to it. I could choose to hit back at that person or situation with the anger/frustration that I momentarily felt. You know how you get really defensive if someone hit you up about something; or if they question you when they know damn well that you know what you’re doing.
Alternatively, I could choose to try and see their perspective and acknowledge their point of view or opinion whilst staying calm, because if you react defensively to someone’s anger or aggression (even if you don’t like what they have to say) towards you, you will end up looking like a plonker just like them.
Now, I am NOT saying that you shouldn’t stand up for yourself; stand tall and stand strong! All I am saying is: think before you speak, and fighting aggression against aggression isn’t always the best answer. I know that it can be hard, especially if that person has a different opinion or is just winding you up, but just remember that you can’t control what they do, but you can control the way you react.
Thank you, dad, for the great advice!