In a little over a month, I will be 26 years old, as will the majority of my friends from high school. I can say truthfully that turning 26 doesn’t faze me in the slightest. We are all going to grow older whether we like it or not, so there is no point in complaining.
The realisations that plague my mind the most are the following:
- I have no idea what I am doing.
- Everyone seems to have their lives together.
You see, the vast majority of my friends from high school have graduated from university, and are now working in their chosen fields.
On the flipside, I had no idea what I wanted to do when I finished high school, so I just worked. Then when I discovered that I loved to read and write, I decided to have a crack at being a full-time writer. I am still working on it, but it is one of the hardest fields to be successful in.
I question what I’m doing with my life ALL THE TIME. Yes, I am working towards being a full-time writer, but in the interim I work full-time which makes the balance between one and the other challenging.
Writing can be hit and miss as well. Some days or weeks can be really productive and you feel like you’re really making progress which is a wonderful feeling. And there are some weeks where nothing goes your way and you question why you are doing what you are doing.
In addition to having jobs in their chosen fields, some of my high school friends have partners and children/married with children/married/ or just with a partner.
Building a solid foundation with your partner – whether that be moving in together, getting married, or having a child, gives you that feeling of purpose, and that you are moving forward in life.
Let me be frank, not everyone’s lives are like the above. Take me for example, you have read all about my career plight and continued hustle. I also do not have a partner or any children. And believe me, when you see posts on Facebook or Instagram that so and so are getting married or so and so and so and so are having a baby and/or getting married, it’s bloody hard. I’ll tell you why it’s hard: it’s hard because they (appear) to have their lives together, and they seem to know what they are doing with their lives; they are moving forward, not sitting stagnant.
I’m not going to lie and say that I am not scared about my future career, and what might happen. I’m not going to lie and say that I am not fussed on finding a man, because in all honesty, I would love to.
What I’m trying to say is that I know how scary it is when all your friends find partners; hit their career goals all before you do. It’s terrifying.
It’s okay to feel the way we do about these things. We are not alone. I’m not gonna say that there is someone out there for everyone because I’m to entirely sure I believe that myself anymore. Nor am I going to end this with some uplifting, preaching-like quote – it wouldn’t fit.
I’m going to keep my hustle going, and so should you.